So you’re 19? If I had to guess you’re either in college, working, or neither… but either way being 19 isn’t easy! After surviving 19 years of life I’ve learned some valuable points that I’d like to share with others my age.
1. Most 19 year olds aren’t rich.
Don’t feel bad if you only have $13.00 in your checking account – we’ve all been there. Getting a college education isn’t cheap, rent isn’t free, and gas prices are always ridiculous. You have to remember that it won’t be like this forever. College degrees mean more money in the future!
2. Don’t fret if you haven’t found your true love.
I think most of us are guilty of getting caught up in finding a significant other. Keep in mind that finding a potential husband/wife is not your purpose in life. Use these next few years to focus on yourself – your mental health, physical health, education, and faith. Chances are you will not be “forever alone.” Swiping for hours on Tinder is not going to speed up the love process. Be patient and the right one will come along when you’re least expecting it.
3. It’s okay that you gained 15 pounds.
You’re approaching your twenties which means you can’t eat a whole bag of Doritos and a liter of Mountain Dew like you did in high school. If you’re a college student living on campus then hear me out – it’s totally normal to gain weight. Cafeteria food is not even close to what our mothers cooked for us back at home. If you eat in moderation and exercise on a regular basis you will be just fine. Exercise isn’t your thing? Try yoga or just simply go on walks! Any exercise is better than nothing.
4. Weed out the toxic people in your life.
If you have friends in your life that act like a real version of Regina George then you need to do some serious weeding. There are 4 types of people that I stay away from.
- The takers: “Can you do me a favor?” “Can I copy yesterdays lab report?” “Can you give me a ride to _____?” I think you get the point I’m trying to make. It’s not fair to give and give without being appreciated or given back to.
- The partiers: If you have friends that only text you on a Friday or Saturday night to see what you’re doing then that’s a red flag. The average successful adult doesn’t party every weekend like it’s their job. It was cool to do that in high school, now leave it for the high schoolers because you’re an adult.
- The negative nancies: Everyone complains, yes. But to complain about everything, no. I can’t bear to listen to people complain about things that they could change (unloyal boyfriend, being overweight, crappy job, etc.) They should stop hating their life and make some positive changes. Steer clear of these kinds of people because they never stop.
- The competitors: If your friend loves to brag about her new Michael Kors watch her boyfriend got her for Christmas and then asks what your boyfriend got you then she needs to get a life and you need to get a new friend. Trying to one-up someone all the time sounds exhausting.
5. Make time for the people you love (and people who love you, too!).
If I’ve learned one thing in life it’s that life goes by fast. Your grandparents are not always going to be here. Yes, even your parents will eventually leave this earth. Have a sewing day with your grandma, take your dad out to a movie, or play a game of tag with your pesky little brother. I vowed that I never wanted to have regrets of not spending enough time with my grandparents before they passed away. Old people love company! A couple hours out of your week can make a huge difference in someones life. Give up an hour of watching TV and go be with someone you love.
6. Stop wishing life to fast forward.
Being 19 is such a lame age, I know. It feels like life would be so much better if I was 17 again or better yet – if I was 25 and all settled in my career. If you’re constantly hoping for a different situation you can’t appreciate the one you’re in. Take each day one day at a time. Stop your crazy life once and awhile and think of all the things you’re grateful for. Someday you’re going to be fourty-something and wishing you were 19 again.
Stay calm, you can only be 19 for 365 days. Let the countdown begin to 20. 😉